Part One: How To Approach In Grocery Store

Below is the first part of Carlos Xuma's 5 part

approach series. After the last part of the

series I've managed to get Carlos (the author of

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Part One: How To Approach In Grocery Store

By Carlos Xuma

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I think that most guys would probably agree that

the most difficult part of the whole dating and

seduction scene is just getting to meet more

women. Everything starts there. If you meet more

women, you get more phone numbers. If you get more

numbers, you get more dates. If you get more

dates, you get more practice. You get more

success. You get more girlfriends and more... you

know. Action.

It's a steady progression from one critical point.

Men just need more confidence in their ability to

meet women. This article will give you some of the

root strategies in getting to meet women in

different circumstances. The approaches will break

down each situation into the essential

ingredients. This isn't your usual "be confident

and just ask her" advice. I'm going to give you

specific goals, opportunities, dangers,

approaches, and analytical details of each

situation.

Consider this an intensive class in meeting women

and getting to the first - and most critical -

step in the dating game.

Have a seat and let's get started...

Hot and Cold

Each situation where you can meet a woman will

range from either "hot," meaning that it begins

with a certain amount of familiarity and trust

between you and her, or it is "cold," meaning that

it is a situation where neither of you know

anything about the other.

An example of a Hot contact would be a date setup

where you both have friends in common, such as a

blind date. A Cold contact would be a woman you

run into at the post office that you know nothing

about.

When you have a choice, you want the Hot contacts.

Unfortunately, these will be less frequent than

the Cold contacts, so you need to hone your skills

at turning the Cold ones into Hot ones. These

approaches will be the fire to heat them for you.

And always remember that your attitude and

confidence is much more important than the

wording. How you say it is much more important

than WHAT you say. If you come across as a

self-confident man who isn't intimidated by women,

she is going to be naturally attracted to you.

It's a built-in mechanism that is your best friend

when it boils down to the moment you walk up to

her. A self-confident man makes her feel secure,

and implies you are trustable.

And now, let's go into the approaches.

Situation 1: Grocery Store

Description:

You're at any grocery store, and you see a petite

gal feeling up the chicken breasts in the frozen

foods.

Goals:

Phone number and/or email. (Your chances of

getting laid from a trip to the Safeway are pretty

slim, Cowboy. Set your sights accordingly.)

Opportunities:

Women put some thought into their grocery

shopping, so you have many opportunities to engage

in conversation about something they're looking

at. They really ponder their choices. And, you can

take as long as you want to shop and flirt because

there are new people coming and going every

minute. Take a little while to do a little product

research while you're there.

Dangers:

You should be shopping with at least a basket or

cart. If you've only come in to grab a bottle of

wine and leave, you may have to be more forward,

because you won't look as natural. Another danger

is that not many people are taking a relaxed and

luxurious trip to the grocery. They usually want

to shop their list, get rung up, and leave. You

have to find a way into her attention zone.

Approach:

There are many ways you can get yourself

introduced. One of the best ways is also one of

the slyest, and I'll bet most people have never

even thought of it: Put something you're buying

into her cart. Then just stand there and point out

your error when you want to talk.

"Oh, wow, I'm just so overwhelmed with the choices

for split-pea soup that I just helped you buy

some, too. You don't have to thank me. I do this

for all the shoppers."

Or, "Whoops. I was about to put something healthy

in your basket by mistake, but it looks like you

might need it for real. Are you really going to

eat that stuff? Come with me, girl. We're going to

the fresh food section."

Another approach is to run into her with your

cart. Hey, I never said you had to be

sophisticated. You just accidentally have a

head-on collision with her cart. The trick of this

maneuver is that you make it appear as if it were

her fault.

"Whoah! Ma'am, I'm going to have to ask to see

your license and proof of insurance. I think I've

got whiplash."

Or, "Hey, are you the one that always runs into my

car in the parking lot, too? I've finally caught

you!'

You should definitely make it a point to shop

around the wine section for a while. There is a

lot of conversational opportunity here, and women

love wine. Let the chumps shop for beer, you're

here for the ladies.

"Excuse me, do you know if you're supposed to have

white whine with chicken?" And she'll say, yes.

"What about with Cheerios?"

Or, "Do you know what the difference is between a

Syrah and a Merlot?" She'll try to explain, but

it's always a very subtle difference. "Oh, I see.

So you must be one of those people who stomps

grapes in her basement, huh?"

Details:

If you're still in your work attire (a tie and

suit), relax it a little. Look like you're a

snappy dresser, but feel free to lose the tie and

put it in a pocket. If you're dressed in your best

camouflage pants and Oakland Raiders jersey...

smack yourself up the back of the head and go get

dressed. Your rule number one is to always go out

dressed to meet the next gal you're going to bring

home.

Remember this:

You don't have to dress up in a tuxedo, but for

gosh sakes, make sure whatever you're wearing is

appropriate to the situation. For a grocery store,

you can even show up in a pair of jeans and a

t-shirt, but you better make it all look stylish

and neat. Wear a decent pair of shoes (not your

ratty Converse hi-tops) and a belt. Make sure your

shirt isn't wrinkled, and your jeans don't look

like they've been chewed up in the gears of your

mountain bike.

Also, don't ever go to the grocery store with a

wingman. You'll look gay.

Situation 2: Coffee House

Description:

You're at your local Starbucks or coffee house,

either waiting in line with the rest of the drones

to order and pay, or adding your sugar and

treatments to it. Ms. Hardbody is in line for her

dose of java.

Goals:

Again, a phone number and/or email. Unless this is

a first meeting from another contact, you are

probably only going to be able to seek the ability

to follow up and see her again.

Opportunities:

There are so many people who get their coffee in

the morning, late-morning, noon, early afternoon,

late afternoon, early evening ... you'll never

have a shortage of women to approach.

Dangers:

People can be very serious about their java fix.

You need to watch out for the moody ones in the

morning. Beware smiling or being too joyful as you

might risk seeming annoyingly happy - and

unrealistic. You'll seem fake.

You may also be intimidated by the crowd of people

in line. But rest assured that you don't have to

even ask her for her number in the store. You can

always follow her outside and finish your close

there, away from prying eyes.

Approach:

The first approach requires you to be in line

somewhere near her. Listen to her order, if she's

in front of you. If it's interesting, consider

ordering the same thing, and then telling her,

"You know, what you ordered sounded so good, I had

to try it out. But if it sucks, I'm going to ask

for a refund from you. Cool? Okay, then." Just

beware making it sound like you were a copycat for

any other reason than you needed to try something

different. Not because you were trying to impress

her.

If she's behind you in line, make it a point to

let a few people get in front of you as you "try

to decide what you want." When she gets right

behind you, you say, "Okay, I need to know what

they've got here that's good. Do you have any

idea? If you give me a good hint, I'll let you get

in front of me, too. Just none of those weird

teas, okay?"

Details:

Almost anything goes in this situation. Again,

your dress code should be as casual as work

allows, but everyone expects everyone else to be

dressed for work. It helps to frequent the same

coffee places for a while so you can get a sense

of who shows up at what times. Alternate locations

so that you cannot appear too familiar to any of

the women, and in case you do pick up on one, you

don't have to worry about other women recognizing

you as "that guy who picks up women at the coffee

shop." You might also want to bring a friend as a

wingman in this situation.

Check out Parts 2-5 of this "class" series for

more situational techniques for meeting women.

Well, I've covered a great deal of material for

you to practice and use. The critical part of this

exercise, however, is that you MUST practice and

use it. These skills do no one any good if you

just read them, and the next time you meet a girl

you walk up and blank out.

Sit down and memorize the words you'll need, so

that when the time comes, you won't have to worry

about stage fright or any other fears blocking

your real goal: getting her phone number.

Everything starts there.

Now get out there and put it to use! Class

dismissed!

If you'd like more information on how to approach

and meet women, and get quality women with the

REAL you, go check this out:

How To Talk To Women

Your friend,

Carlos Xuma

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